Halve Your Holiday Have-Tos
One Simple Method to Take Back Your Time & Actually Enjoy The Season
With Caroline Garnet McGraw
For recovering perfectionists, over-givers, and over-functioners who want a calmer, more joyful holiday season
Is this you during the holidays?
- You’re busy, always trying to beat the clock, constantly planning and peacekeeping.
- You want to make sure you do the season “right.”
- Your task list doubles, but your energy doesn’t, so you end up exhausted.
- Slowing down sounds great, but you feel guilty, so it doesn’t happen.
- You’ve achieved a lot, but can’t shake the underlying fear of failure.
- When you do have time off, you struggle to relax and enjoy it.
You get to have a life that welcomes you.
Yes, it’s possible for you to have a more enjoyable, restful, and true-to-you holiday than you’ve ever had before. You can ring in the new year feeling energized, not depleted.
Even if you’re facing challenges like caregiving, a demanding job, or a health concern – you can make changes and create a more freeing and joyful holiday. How do I know this? Because I started transforming my own holidays when I was chronically ill, taking care of two small kids, and serving as the primary breadwinner for my family.
I went from severe over-functioning to doing much, much less. (From personally mailing 60+ cards to forgoing them entirely. From driving two thousand miles with a four-month-old baby to cozying up at home.)
I went from feeling like “it’s all on me” to feeling surrounded by all kinds of support.
I went from dreading the holidays to actually looking forward to them.
And I’m here to help you do the same.
This year, it WILL be different.

Instead of …
- Racing through the season
- Carrying the emotional labor for everyone
- Saying yes on autopilot
You can move through the holidays with space, ease, and a sense of being supported — not just needed.
Imagine a holiday season where …
- You feel free to say “yes” only when you mean it.
- Your to-do list is half the usual length — and your stress level goes way down.
- You actually feel present, cozy, rested, and joyful.
That’s why I created Halve Your Holiday Have-Tos: to gives you the tools, guidance, and personal support to make that relaxing holiday a reality.
Halve Your Holiday Have-Tos
One Simple Method to Take Back Your Time & Actually Enjoy The Season

You’ll discover …
✅ The “guiding star” that makes your decisions for you
✅ The simple method to cut your to-do list in half
✅ How to handle the guilt & make room for joy
What’s Included
A Private 1:1 Subtraction Strategy Session with Coach Caroline (60 minutes)
- We’ll walk through the method together, adjust it to your life, and create your personalized Holiday Subtraction Plan.
One week of email support following our call
- Perfect for questions, wobbles, and attacks of “the guilties”
Your Field Guide to Feeling Freer this Holiday (PDF)
- Step-by-step guidance to help you integrate the method at your own pace.
$597 value –> Yours for $297
Individual coaching calls must be scheduled between Monday, December 1st and Wednesday, December 17th, 2025. 10 spots are available; enrollment closes on Monday, December 1st or when capacity is reached, whichever occurs sooner. All payments are non-refundable.

Breaking away from our usual patterns can feel daunting, It really helps to have time with an experienced, compassionate guide. That’s me, Caroline Garnet McGraw. I bring two important things to the table:
1. My subtraction superpower, honed over 8+ years coaching with hundreds of clients.
Within the first 15 minutes of coaching with you, I can see the #1 thing that needs to go for you to have an amazing life.
This is great news, because the quickest way to add joy and freedom into your life is to subtract the stuff that’s draining the energy out of you.
2. Decades of experience breaking free from some pretty constricting cages. To name a few, I …
- Left the WCG (the doomsday cult of childhood) to attend Vassar College
- Turned down a full scholarship to Princeton to serve adults with special needs at L’Arche
- Dealt with others’ disapproval and married my love (we’ve been together 17 years now)
- Quit my secure job as a L’Arche Program Director to succeed as a copywriter
- Learned to heal underlying core issues, launched a 6-figure coaching business
- Published You Don’t Owe Anyone, ruffling feathers and selling 6000+ copies
All to say: I love helping recovering “good kids” create a life that finally feels like home. Just ask my coaching clients!
Select Client Testimonials
“I can’t tell you how much these coaching sessions have helped, and how great your coaching has been. The number-one thing is that you have just been so kind. Having your open spirit, this non-judgmental space, has been amazing for me.
You’re an empathic listener; you give my words back to me in a form that’s kind. I think about it, and I build in things that fill the gaps. Every session is food for thought.
Having a true coach who gets it, and says, “Let’s think on that; there’s more going on beneath the surface. And, here are techniques to use to get you through the overwhelm” … it’s huge. You’re giving me great strategies for the different phases of change.
This coaching helps give me clarity of mind. I feel like I’m finally breaking through this issue of self-punishment that has held me back for years. Now, I’m getting it out of the shadows and making changes. I’m learning to be kinder to myself, to take steps in the right direction for me.
For so long, I’ve had that feeling of obligation and not letting people down. But now I’m making choices from a different place.
Recently I was offered a prestigious position, but when I visited the area I realized it wasn’t for me, it wasn’t in line with my vision. In the past I would have pushed through and “made it work.”
But this time, I turned it down. And shortly after, I had an amazing interview and said yes to another position that I’m excited about.
It’s really sinking in that I can actually feel good about my life. I’ve felt contentment; I’ve not felt that in years! There’s a sense of ease and freedom. Of, Wow, this is possible.”
“I think of myself as a highly self-sufficient person, always used to solving my problems on my own, working on myself to be better, perform better, and live better.
At one point though, when things became unbearably hard and confusing, I did not see a way out and felt paralyzed to take any action for fear of failing, I came to realize what a struggle it is to solve everything on my own and not asking for help. I finally reached out to Caroline and I am simply amazed by how much better I feel now and how much better my life is going.
Her seemingly inexhaustible set of tools combined with her ability to make me feel completely safe has given me the courage to explore long-buried emotional issues and resolve them. With her help and gentle guidance, I have given myself permission to finally look at what I want and go for it. All of this in a structured way, with a clear vision and clear next steps.
Life gives you what you need and what you can bear. With Caroline by my side, I feel my self-development has taken on a much quicker pace, as life consistently confronts me with new possibilities for great insights and self-improvement – and she is there to help me embody and live these insights.
I know I am finally on my path. Not the one I thought I needed to be on, not the one I took on half-heartedly because it was expected of me; but really, truly my path. And I have new-found strength and newly learned skills to walk this path and finally enjoy the process.”
Halve Your Holiday Have-Tos!
$597 value –> Yours for $297
Individual coaching calls must be scheduled between Monday, December 1st and Wednesday, December 17th, 2025. 10 spots are available; enrollment closes on Monday, December 1st or when capacity is reached, whichever occurs sooner. All payments are non-refundable.