Pull yourself up by your bootstraps is literally impossible
One of the most dangerous parts of my psyche is my tendency to think that if I just work harder, then SURELY I can fix it. This part of me is vulnerable to the "hustle...
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Waiting for them to die so you can live?!
After years of verbal and emotional abuse - after years of constant criticism and control - this was her secret truth: "I'm waiting for my husband to die so I can begin to live." That's...
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Spoiler alert! The intruders aren’t your biggest problem.
When I wrote to you about my recent dream - with the menacing intruders who broke in and took over my house for a party, then were so convivial that I nearly lost sight of...
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This came as a real shock
When I read your emails, I have full-body responses. I don't read quietly; I exclaim, I cheer, I shout. I talk with my hands and wave them around. Always, I feel fortunate that you trust...
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You’re not lazy, you’re just at step 3.
Thank you so much for your brave, courageous responses to my questions last week! So many of you wrote back, which is fantastic. While the stories are different, there are common threads. Here's what I'm...
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No, I’m not making this up…
Do you know that feeling you get when you realize that it's the anniversary of something truly insane that happened to you, and you look back and think: Whoa, I survived THAT? A year ago...
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The call is coming from inside the house …
Imagine that you're alone in a big, beautiful house that you love. It's your home, and it's exactly right for you. But before you go to bed one night you hear a noise that sends...
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For a moment there I wanted a different life
On new year's eve I took our two and a half year old to the park. She needed to run off some energy, and she also needed time for her mama to focus on her...
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You do not have to build the puppy house at bedtime.
“Build a puppy house,” my toddler says to me, and I hesitate. It’s almost her bedtime, and I sense that this will end in tears. “Build a puppy house!” she cries again. She clutches her...
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Where are you missing the obvious?
When our new Baby Girl was four weeks old, our midwife reminded me that it was time to introduce bottles. (Though I planned to continue nursing, introducing bottles would give me the option to be...
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I just wanted you to know
Thank you so much for your comments and congratulations on the big news I shared in my last missive! I was – and am – touched. I felt the nudge to send this one today,...
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Do you always look like you’re fine, even if you’re not?
The thing I try hard to prevent happened again. Someone asked me, “Do you ever have a bad day? You’re so upbeat and positive as a coach. I just wonder … do you ever get...
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