Euphoric Recall: The Real Reason You Haven’t Moved On
About 20 years ago this Christmas, I pretended I was fine when really I was furious. The guy I call Harley in my first book, You Don't Owe Anyone - the co-worker who begged me...
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What Should I Do With My Life?
Whenever readers or coaching clients ask me about how they ought to live, I recall these lines from David Seabury's The Art of Selfishness: "No one but yourself knows what you ought to do. You...
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Emotional Abuse Test: When You Know Something Isn’t Right
After years of verbal and emotional abuse - after years of constant criticism and control - this was her secret truth: "I'm waiting for my husband to die so I can begin to live." That's...
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Arrival Fallacy: Once I get through this, THEN I’ll be happy?
Once upon a time, a beloved friend had a pattern that drove me crazy. She'd enter into high-stress situations: working a demanding job while planning a wedding, coordinating a cross-country move with small children, or...
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Insecure Overachiever? Set that Crushing Burden Down.
Recently a dear friend sent me a sticker with a picture of a pelican on it, surrounded by these words: "Just because you PELiCAN, doesn't mean you PELiSHOULD." It made me laugh and it hit...
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Take Back Your Time, Starting Right Now
Before I had two kids in two years, I thought I had my time pretty well dialed in. Before they arrived, I would have thought, "Sure, take back your time, yup, it's great, been there,...
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Am I Lazy, or on a Heroine’s Journey?
Pretty much every coaching client I've ever worked with brings up the "lazy" judgment. They'll make comments such as, "I was so lazy, I just did nothing all day." Or, "What's wrong with me today,...
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Busy Mind in Meditation? You’re Doing Nothing Wrong.
The very first challenge in my book, You Don't Owe Anyone, is to do nothing for 15 minutes. To stop all effort and simply be still, regardless of what your busy mind tells you that...
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Limiting Beliefs Examples & The Surprising Way to Set Yourself Free
Can I get real with you right now? I did something crazy the day I had my first child. After the epic labor and birth of our baby - which I have compared to being in...
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Covert Abuse is a Nightmare; Here’s How to Wake Up
Imagine that you're alone in your big, beautiful house. But before you go to bed, you hear a noise that sends fear up your spine. You check the downstairs side door, and the lock is...
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Reparenting Yourself: The Most Essential Skill Nobody Taught You
Can I tell you a story about a brilliant thing my two year old once did, if I promise to keep it short and make it relevant to reparenting yourself? OK great! Here we go....
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Emotional Bypassing Steals Your Life Away. Recover Right Here.
When I read your emails, I have full-body responses: I cheer, I shout, I wave my hands. Always, I feel fortunate that you trust me with your truths. This week, a reader email featured big...
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