My Life Is Falling Apart, How Do I Live On Purpose?

Whenever I run across one of those productivity-culture articles about how to master your time, gain control of your life, and develop a perfect 5-year plan, I always think about whether or not the author has "been through in it" yet. Have they ever had an unexpected disaster wreck their best-laid plans? Have they ever sat in silence, stunned by a betrayal? Have they ever mourned a devastating loss, thinking, "My life is falling apart" ...? If you have, then you know: It changes you. Maybe for you it was losing a loved one through death, divorce, or dementia. Maybe...
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Self Denial Made Me Too Scared to Spend $15 on Myself. Here’s What Helped.

I used to have so much trouble spending money "just for me." It had nothing to do with how hard I worked, or how much I had in the bank. Back when I was an undergraduate at Vassar College, I worked three jobs, volunteered, and tithed hundreds of dollars to my cultic church...yet I couldn't pull the trigger on a $15 gift for myself. Self denial was ingrained into me at an early age, and by that point, it felt like safety. Before I graduated, I wanted to buy a coffee mug from my favorite cafe, but I just couldn't...
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