Letting Go of Expectations (Even If You Hate Making People Uncomfortable)
I will never forget the day Nora told me what was really going on. When we first started coaching together, the person I'll call Nora had thousands of emails maxing out her inbox. She was...
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Living Authentically, Or Trying to Be Someone You’re Not?
I started leading a double life early on. Starting in elementary school, I needed to be one person at school, and another person at home and at church. (This is not a recipe for living...
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How to Stop Being a Perfectionist? Wrong Question.
Here's a wild idea for you: What if you don’t need to stop being a perfectionist? What if "how to stop being a perfectionist" isn't the most helpful question? Here's a better one: "How do...
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Live on Purpose (Even When Life Goes Off the Rails)
Whenever I run across one of those productivity-culture articles about how to master your time, gain control of your life, and develop a perfect 5-year plan to live on purpose, I always think about whether...
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Why Do I Feel Guilty Spending Money?
I used to have so much trouble spending money "just for me." It had nothing to do with how hard I worked, or how much I had in the bank. Back when I was an...
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The Root Cause of Perfectionism and How to Heal
I had my first anxiety attack in the first grade, when the teacher returned my paper with See Me written in red ink instead of the usual Excellent. That perceived failure felt so devastating,...
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Ask Caroline: Working 14 hours a day to hopefully one day be successful?
What do you do when what you're working as hard as you can (on a business, a relationship, or a creative project), and you're still not getting the results you want? How do you know...
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Ask Caroline: I need to work and earn money, but I have no clue what to do next.
Dear reader, Welcome to the first 2024 edition of Ask Caroline! I'm here to help you stop doing what you're supposed to do, and start doing what you're MEANT to do. In today's video I'm...
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The one thing you need to stop doing this holiday
Before I became a parent, I didn't understand that there are two types of children's books. There are children's books written for actual children, and there are children's books written for parents. When my first...
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Doing nothing wrong?!
The very first challenge in my book, You Don't Owe Anyone, is to do nothing for 15 minutes. To stop all effort and simply be still. It's hard, yes, but it's also the cure for...
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Pull yourself up by your bootstraps is literally impossible
One of the most dangerous parts of my psyche is my tendency to think that if I just work harder, then SURELY I can fix it. This part of me is vulnerable to the "hustle...
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Waiting for them to die so you can live?!
After years of verbal and emotional abuse - after years of constant criticism and control - this was her secret truth: "I'm waiting for my husband to die so I can begin to live." That's...
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