Covert Abuse is a Nightmare; Here’s How to Wake Up
Imagine that you're alone in your big, beautiful house. But before you go to bed, you hear a noise that sends fear up your spine. You check the downstairs side door, and the lock is...
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Reparenting Yourself: The Most Essential Skill Nobody Taught You
Can I tell you a story about a brilliant thing my two year old once did, if I promise to keep it short and make it relevant to reparenting yourself? OK great! Here we go....
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Emotional Bypassing Steals Your Life Away. Recover Right Here.
When I read your emails, I have full-body responses: I cheer, I shout, I wave my hands. Always, I feel fortunate that you trust me with your truths. This week, a reader email featured big...
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Soul Weary and Wanting A Different Life? Read This.
On new year's eve I took our two and a half year old to the park. She needed to run off some energy while the baby stayed home with dad. So there we were, me...
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Embracing Imperfection Gets Easier with This Ancient Practice
Have you ever been enchanted with a story in which the heroine either doesn't know, or doesn't remember, her true identity? (Yes, I get that this is not the typical lead-in to a post on...
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Living Someone Else’s Life? Here’s How to Come Home to Yourself.
I started living a double life early on. Starting in elementary school, I needed to be one person at school, and another person at home and at church. The demands of the doomsday cult known...
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How to Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes: A Step By Step Guide
When I was younger, it used to make me so mad when I'd hear trusted coaches, therapists, and mentors say, “Just love yourself.” They meant well, but those words were not enough for me! At...
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Find Your Purpose by Subtracting, Not Adding
The biggest myth about how to find your purpose is: I'll get there by adding more to my plate. I'll add new habits, and become massively productive! I'll add new virtues, and become a better...
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False Guilt Will Screw Up Your Life; Here’s How to Get Free
I will never forget the day Nora told me what was really going on. When we first started coaching together, the person I'll call Nora had thousands of emails maxing out her inbox. She was...
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What Causes Perfectionism and Exactly How to Heal
I had my first anxiety attack in the first grade, when the teacher returned my paper with See Me written in red ink instead of the usual Excellent. That perceived failure felt so devastating, I...
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My Life Is Falling Apart, How Do I Live On Purpose?
Whenever I run across one of those productivity-culture articles about how to master your time, gain control of your life, and develop a perfect 5-year plan, I always think about whether or not the author...
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Self Denial Made Me Too Scared to Spend $15 on Myself. Here’s What Helped.
I used to have so much trouble spending money "just for me." It had nothing to do with how hard I worked, or how much I had in the bank. Back when I was an...
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